I Only Know That I Love You

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The room is dark with the dim light of candles burning; dancing with the melody of the air as it gently glides by. The wine glasses are barely empty with only a small sip left waiting at the bottom though warm from time standing still. This very evening was created for you by the grace of God.

The weight of her head on your chest makes you wrap your arms around her and hold her closer to you as you stroke her hair gently with your fingers. You glace at her soft, angelic face and notice her lips creasing upward around the outter edges showing you that smile you fell in love with years ago. Her lips are intoxicating. The very shades of red and pink are faded from kissing her softly for hours; the taste of wine still lingers sweetly on her mouth.

Slowly she lifts her head from your chest looking you at you in your tired blue eyes and whispers the very words you will never grow tired of hearing. “I love you baby…” she pauses “I have never loved another nor will I ever love anyone like I love you. I thank God everyday that you found me. I could not have asked for anything more. I just wanted you to know that.” Slowly, she places her head back on your chest as your heart not only swells but is bursting with the very feelings you felt the moment, the very hour, the minute you knew that you loved her. Words cannot match nor compare the feelings you have inside. Your very soul is smiling. You have never had a night like this before. Not this one. This one is forever. This is the one that you prayed for. Tears silently fall yet they are tears of joy. They slowly fall from your chin as she silently sleeps.

You whisper “I love you too baby”.

We have all had that magical night. The kind of night that you wish so badly you could have again and again. What made it so special? So memorable? What it your partner? Was it the location? Maybe it was the mood? Have you ever wondered, if money were no object and you could go back in time to your most memorable night, would you change anything? For the most of it, the answer would reasonably be “I wouldn’t change a thing.” Money can’t buy you love. No matter what the cost, material goods, like people, age and have a normal wear and tear. What about love? For those reading this and have had a successful relationship or marriage, have love changed or has it developed with age, like a fine wine?

What is a thread like this doing in a healing section?

I want you to close your eyes after reading this and think about your magical night. No one will ever be able to take that away from you. You can re-live that memory as many times as you want. I want you to reflect back and FEEL it. Don’t think of it visually. I want you to feel it. Do you best to remember how you FELT…REALLY CONCENTRATE ON THIS ONE.

Think about:

-What did they look like?
-How did they smell?
-Remember the feeling of warmth you felt as their arms wrapped around
you when they saw you
-Think about the mood? Where were you?
-Can you remember the sounds around you?
-Think about their lips and how they tasted as your kisses lingered?
-When the night was over, and they drove off, walked inside, or possibly picked up…how did you feel?

When you read the following examples, be honest and post if you smiled EVEN for an instant.

Am I trying to hurt those who are already hurting? Am I trying to be cruel and bring up a faded, painful memory that you assume will never be again?

No, not at all. I want those who are hurting to understand that the feelings you felt are perfectly natural and you can relive those memories if even for a moment. Why would you want to do that if you are hurting? It releases endorphins from your brain and make the body “feel” more relaxed.

There are so many out there who choose to feel sorry for yourself and look at the doom and gloom of life after a breakup. You’re not pretty enough? You’re too old? You don’t make enough money? You do this and you don’t that….

Let me burst your “poor pitiful me” bubble for a moment. You have heard me give many a lesson, but I am not a teacher, I am also a student. I merely try to give advice based on what I have learned. We call this experience…

Before you worry about sending a good-bye forever email, before you worry about deleting someone from your myspace friends list, before you wonder if you should send that “I miss you” text message….

STOP…stop, take a deep breath and think about this…

What is it really going to matter if you DON’T send an email, a text, a smoke signal, a telegram, a fax, a love note, a phone call….

Does ANY OF THE ABOVE TASKS make love magically GO AWAY or FADE!

Have you EVER IN THE HISTORY OF YOUR FRIENDS, FAMILY OR RELATIVES head ANYONE say…..

“They immediately STOPPED loving them when they were deleted off of their friends list, buddy list, messenger, cell phone or any other RIDICULOUS device. How elementary is that? How childish? To think that love fades so quickly…open your mind and stop being dramatic for one moment.

Love is like a cinder in a camp fire from the night before….you may wake up and “see” the fire is out, yet DEEP INSIDE, the cinders burn JUST AS HOT…they just need some attention to get them going again.

Please don’t get me wrong, I am not camparing loving somoene to a campfire but the IDEA of the core of love DOES NOT JUST GO AWAY.

To put it bluntly..not even death can stop someone from loving you.

Have you ever lost a friend or family member? The day they passed, did you stop loving them? Silly question indeed.

Let go of “I have to do something before they go away…”

LET THEM GO!!! You will hurt..sure you will, but if you don’t push and do foolish things to prove that they are justified from walking away…they MIGHT ….JUST MIGHT COME BACK…

BUT….

I caution you

Listen very carefully,

The moment you let “I will wait for them to come back” and let it take root in your heart, that is where you will stay. You will not get better. You will not move forward. You will not stop thinking of your ex or your partner. You will not start to sleep better. You appetite will not come back. You will not enjoy YOUR LIFE…..YOUR LIFE, NOOOO ONE ELSE’S
If you want to be dramatic and say they were the one for you, please by all means do so.

Do us all a favor and add something to that last statement…

Add this “They were the one for me” AS OF RIGHT NOW <– Add this to the end.

We have NO idea what is going to happen tomorrow. Stop guessing and just LET IT HAPPEN. Relax. You can do it. I have never met anyone who physically DIED because their ex didn’t call last night out of the blue.

Men are often perceived as being insensitive. I can tell you with all that I am that this rumour is not only not true, but insulting to the very men who still know how to treat a woman like a lady.

To everyone reading this. Be you and be happy with who you are. Stop trying to change what CAN’T be changed. It would be like an athlete saying, “I love her so much, I am going to try to do WORSE at playing basketball.” How absurd! Just be you! You are unique. You are special. There is NO ONE exactly like you, but there are millions out there that WOULD LIKE YOU ALOT if you gave them the chance.

You can do it. I know you can. I know that you can do anything if you believe in yourself. Find that inner confidence. Find YOUR CINDERS for the taste of LIVING again. DO your best to let go of sadness and hurt. Snap in that backbone and know that jsut because they walked away DOESN’T mean you are worthless. NO WAY! You are a diamond. Though the finder didn’t see that in you, a trained eye would EVER THROUGH YOU AWAY!

You can do it…

Now stop feeling sorry for yourself….get off of myspace and facebook and LIVE YOUR LIFE!!!

I promise..things will get better!

You have my word.

Your Friend,

SuperDave71

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